Yesterday I went to visit with my in-laws and FIL was waddling with his feet spread wider apart than I've ever seen. Last month my husband saw his dad waddling and asked him to start using a cane but FIL said he didn't need one. MIL is in a wheelchair and FIL pushes it so he has something on which to steady himself but that only works when they're together.
For the last 6 months he has lost his balance frequently. For the last couple of months he underwent another round of MRIs, heart monitors, full checkups by a neurologist, cardiologist, and internist, and once again all tests came back normal. He's doing PT and balance exercises but it's not really helping.
For a man as vain as he is, I would have thought FIL would rather use a cane than look ridiculous waddling around like a duck. I found a Royal Canes black and maple model that is ergonomic, folding, and adjustable. It's not cheap. With the holidays coming up I could give it to him as a present but he is notorious for opening gifts and throwing them in the closet.
I just don't know what I should do. I don't want him to fall and hurt himself. That would ruin everything we've accomplished by moving them into independent living.
With the holidays coming I feel like this the only big window of opportunity to help him accept that his waddling is worse and noticeable, and that it's not a matter of 'if' he falls but 'when.'
My husband tells me this isn't our problem but I can't stop feeling sorry for my FIL and worried about him because he has been nothing but good to me.