He will not let me put on pajamas. He can go to the bathrooom after I got rid of the underwear. Once in a while he will shave. We have a bath lift chair and he used to be agreeable to bathe but no more. He has dementia but he is the one in control. I am seventy four. He is often up and down at night so sleep for me is a problem.
My daughter helps me all she can. I wanted to keep him at home and hate to make a decision for a nursing home because of a bath. The days are not too bad. I can cope o.k. but it is killing me to see him dirty and smelly, with greasy hair.