My son lives with my 78 yr old father, his grandfather. My son is dads total caregiver. Dad has vascular dimentia, leukemia, emphysia, congestive heart failure. Dad smokes like a woodstove. My son does everything for my dad. My dad wears depends 24/7 and does not want to change them. He is ruining the furniture. Everything has chucks or plastic on it. My dad says wet pants are comfortable and refuses to change them. I no longer know what to say to my son. My dad is using this as a control thing. Says he can control when he changes his pants no one else can. Also day after day he rewears sweat pants that have been soiled. Hes just being a brat. He laughs at us allthe time. He has stated under no circumstance does he want to go to a nursing home, but I don't really see much of an option. My son is about to go crazy. They live in Wisconsin. Dad was in Hospice but due to funding issues he was removed Jan 1, 2011. Someone with any ideas please help!!!!!