Mom is late stage(hospice evalutated her at stage 7A) dementia. She is now on Hospice. She no longer walks, barely speaks words other than "yeah" and now no longer able to eat. Mom is hungry but she can't seem to figure out how to open mouth up to get me to shove some baby food in her. She locks down her teeth and won't let food in. I try my best to push food in around her gums with either my finger or a tsp but then I gotta fight to get her to swallow. Its sad when mom says "Hun, Hun" ,but no matter what I do she won't allow her jaws to open. Which in turn I get upset and than that makes her upset.
I have always been against feeding tubes. But seeing her hungry and can't eat really gets to you day in and out and makes one question.
If anyone has some suggestions or has dealt with this let me know. I am the lone caregiver making these decisions with mom, no help from siblings. I have always thought I had things under control with mom and when the end came I would know what to do. But now seeing her at the end I am lost. I think reality is hitting hard and I am trying to hold on super tight to her. When I know in my heart she needs to go home to the Lord and be with my dad(her jusband of 44 years) in heaven where she won't suffer no more.