my mother is yrs old. i have been helping her for a long time. now she can't live alone anymore and wants me to move in with her. she has got a very negative attitude and nothing is ever right with her. i don't think i can live with her. i would be miserable and so make her miserable. i clean her house, buy her groceries, pay her bills, take her to dr.'s appointments and i'm wearing out. how can i get her to go to assisted living?