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One thing I've noticed is that not all spouses make good caregivers for Alzheimer's patients. They can't cope with the changes in their mate and they live in denial. They can actually become abusive. If your mom won't get help and learn how to handle him with compassion, you may need to look at assisted living for your dad.
This doesn't mean your mom is a bad person. It just means she can't cope with the "loss" of her husband. It happens more often than one would like to think.
Carol
I know this is a hard adjustment time for them, but I'm getting very depressed myself, trying to keep up with finding and fixing all their business details as well as helping take care of the empty house. It is just overwhelming at times because it's like working in the dark. Any questions about their affairs is met with an "I don't know" and you're left to muddle around until you find the answer. Important papers are missing and that is so frustrating for me - I like everything organized. I've been on meds for depression and anxiety for years so I'm finding it a real struggle.
I guess I just needed to sound off today.
My brother's DR. has told him he needs to get away or he will get sick as well.
Can he leave them alone for a time so he can recover?
What is the law regarding this?