My mother is in an independant living center and she has been neglecting her hygiene and sometimes wears the same clothes for a week at a time 24 hours a day so I have been told. I live approximately 4 hours away and do not have the resources to hire somebody to help. She is 76 and was diagnosed with end stage kidney disease in Nov. and on dialysis so hygiene is very important. I have been here for several weeks and she refuses to let anyone help her shower. I don't know what to do......HELP.