How can I get my diabetic mom with dementia to eat more?

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Dementia and hospitals are a miserable place to be

I hope you can get some rest tonight

Push the dr on the hospice again - lucidity or not if her blood sugar is that high and uncontrolled isn't that the determining factor and not her dementia at this point ?

Do take that day off! Don't spend it all trying to sort things out. Just rest while your brother is with mom.

Hi, Saturday. Picked up brother from airport brought him to see mom. Total opposite of yesterday. She just wanted to sleep, only eat a few bites. Like that all day. Happened to see palliative care doctor in lounge area, and told him. He said he would review chart again. She should at least be on palliative care if not hospice.

Home now, another day tomorrow. Mostly like just going later in the day and let my brother sit with her.

Also, I wanted to mention that sometimes suddenly the elder gets the strength of Supergirl! My late mother almost broke her own eyeglasses when I tried to gently take them from her. Wow! I wasn't expecting that much strength from a person who had trouble opening a bottle of water. Call it "actressing"or whatever.

Wednesday - Mom was moves to a NH with Hospice care on Monday evening. Not very responsive but seems to be in no pain. Not really sure how much longer she will be with me here in the physical word. I know their is no way to know, they have stopped her accue checks so my guess is any day she will pass. What a crazy journey this is.

I'm sorry, I know how heartbreaking losing your mother is. This happened so quickly for you as well which can be a blessing in disguise especially if your mom is not in pain.
Spend time with her. Is your brother still visiting? She will know you are there.
Wishing you peace on this end of this sad journey.

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Thinking of you and mom

God bless

Just thinking about you and your mother. Sending positive thoughts. I know it must be so difficult. You have really hung in there. She is truly blessed to have such a caring daughter.

(((((((hugs)))))) tattoo - hoping your mother stays out of pain and that you are able to get some rest knowing she has what she needs.

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Sending off prayers and hugs to you, Tatoo.

I know this is from several months ago but it really strikes a chord with me so I wanted to offer some support and ideas in case it hasn't been resolved. While my mom isn't in a facility yet she has had memory decline for sure over the years and then had a stoke almost a year and a half ago and both her speech and thought process has been affected. She too has a lack of initiative to eat the way she should, partly because she has shrunk her apatite, partly because she can be very picky about what she will eat (good old hamburgers lunch and dinner were standing orders while she was in rehab so we knew she would eat) and partly because it's stuck in her fabric that she needs to loose weight and the way to do that is not eat. A tomato and lettuce sandwich for lunch and dinner is not nourishment, especially for a diabetic. Anyway based on experience I think you are right on track with putting a plate of food in front of her and I can't imagine why they wouldn't be willing to do that at the facility. But I also can completely relate to why you want to keep her there given that she is thriving in most ways so I would try to work with them, set it out for them as best you can if I were you too. Does she or has she ever had a sweet tooth or just some sort of treat she enjoys and might be served in the evening. Peanut butter, a banana, a little ice cream even, something that will tide her over through the night since it doesn't sound like spiking her too high is a problem overnight. The other idea I had depends on what medications she is on for management, if she is on more than one long acting or a long and medium acting medication might changing the time of day she takes it help? If she tends to eat better or at least be more cooperative during the day maybe changing a morning dose to evening or vice versa, I know they all have different rhythms to when they are doing their magic and how much. Or maybe she's getting something in the evening that kicks in overnight and into the morning she doesn't need. My mom for instance get's Lantus at night, a much smaller amount then she used to. Her diabetes was being so well managed when she was living with my brother
and not living alone...better than it probably ever has. Anyway maybe one of those tweaks or a combination of the two could help? I hope so, good luck.