How can I get my diabetic mom with dementia to eat more?

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My mom is living in an ALF Memoery Care Floor. She is a type 1 diabetic. Every morning when they check her sugar she is extremely low. We have been working with her doctor to adjust her insulin, however the really solution would be for her to eat more or any of her dinner and her evening snack (which they do bring her). I have given them lists of what she likes to eat, I have advice them to sit with her a few moments to chat. Do I really need to go there everyday at dinner to make this happen? Today I went there just a few moments after dinner started, she was the only one at her table without a plate. They said she did not want anything but drank a gluerna so she should be good. I said no, let's get her a plate and see what she will eat. She at the vegetables and fruit, drank a glass of milk and then an extra banana. She said no, but eat some just because it was in front of her. I total them to bring her a PB and Jelly and another banana for her snack. Lets see if I get a call in the morning. Any advice, as I am afraid the ALF will be asking her to move out. (She likes it there and as finally seems settled after a year and half of moving her from place to place.)

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I know this is from several months ago but it really strikes a chord with me so I wanted to offer some support and ideas in case it hasn't been resolved. While my mom isn't in a facility yet she has had memory decline for sure over the years and then had a stoke almost a year and a half ago and both her speech and thought process has been affected. She too has a lack of initiative to eat the way she should, partly because she has shrunk her apatite, partly because she can be very picky about what she will eat (good old hamburgers lunch and dinner were standing orders while she was in rehab so we knew she would eat) and partly because it's stuck in her fabric that she needs to loose weight and the way to do that is not eat. A tomato and lettuce sandwich for lunch and dinner is not nourishment, especially for a diabetic. Anyway based on experience I think you are right on track with putting a plate of food in front of her and I can't imagine why they wouldn't be willing to do that at the facility. But I also can completely relate to why you want to keep her there given that she is thriving in most ways so I would try to work with them, set it out for them as best you can if I were you too. Does she or has she ever had a sweet tooth or just some sort of treat she enjoys and might be served in the evening. Peanut butter, a banana, a little ice cream even, something that will tide her over through the night since it doesn't sound like spiking her too high is a problem overnight. The other idea I had depends on what medications she is on for management, if she is on more than one long acting or a long and medium acting medication might changing the time of day she takes it help? If she tends to eat better or at least be more cooperative during the day maybe changing a morning dose to evening or vice versa, I know they all have different rhythms to when they are doing their magic and how much. Or maybe she's getting something in the evening that kicks in overnight and into the morning she doesn't need. My mom for instance get's Lantus at night, a much smaller amount then she used to. Her diabetes was being so well managed when she was living with my brother
and not living alone...better than it probably ever has. Anyway maybe one of those tweaks or a combination of the two could help? I hope so, good luck.
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Sending off prayers and hugs to you, Tatoo.
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Hugs Tattoo
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(((((((hugs)))))) tattoo - hoping your mother stays out of pain and that you are able to get some rest knowing she has what she needs.
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Just thinking about you and your mother. Sending positive thoughts. I know it must be so difficult. You have really hung in there. She is truly blessed to have such a caring daughter.
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Thinking of you and mom

God bless
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I'm sorry, I know how heartbreaking losing your mother is. This happened so quickly for you as well which can be a blessing in disguise especially if your mom is not in pain.
Spend time with her. Is your brother still visiting? She will know you are there.
Wishing you peace on this end of this sad journey.
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Wednesday - Mom was moves to a NH with Hospice care on Monday evening. Not very responsive but seems to be in no pain. Not really sure how much longer she will be with me here in the physical word. I know their is no way to know, they have stopped her accue checks so my guess is any day she will pass. What a crazy journey this is.
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Also, I wanted to mention that sometimes suddenly the elder gets the strength of Supergirl! My late mother almost broke her own eyeglasses when I tried to gently take them from her. Wow! I wasn't expecting that much strength from a person who had trouble opening a bottle of water. Call it "actressing"or whatever.
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Hi, Saturday. Picked up brother from airport brought him to see mom. Total opposite of yesterday. She just wanted to sleep, only eat a few bites. Like that all day. Happened to see palliative care doctor in lounge area, and told him. He said he would review chart again. She should at least be on palliative care if not hospice.

Home now, another day tomorrow. Mostly like just going later in the day and let my brother sit with her.
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