My dad wants total control of his finances and doesn't want me to help him save money for his medical needs. He wants to spend his Soc. Sec. check on vacations and "fun" things instead of being responsible and saving. He has nothing saved up for nursing care or anything else. He thinks that he can just rely on "free" services from the government or that perhaps I will pay for it. When my husband said we will not pay for it, my dad has refused to sign for POA. What do I do?