My dad tells me to do things instead of asking, and there are times when I cannot do what he wants me to do in that moment, and other times what he wants me to do is not going to help a situationThe issue is my dad can't converse. He can tell great stories but can't hold a conversation, it always reverts back to him. My wife calls it "I / my syndrome". , and in fact make it more difficult. I try to talk to him and explain things, but there are times when I am running against time and there is not enough time to explain things to him. For instance, my mother had a small fire get out of control in the yard, while waiting for the fire department, we were busy beating the fire down and putting water where we could. my dad, being elderly and sick, could not help, and sat in a chair on the porch yelling at me to go to this area instead of the area I was at, when I needed to finish the area I was at in order to make that area not flame up again. This was a stressful situation to begin with, and my dad's yelling was just making it worse. How do I make him understand that I can judge a situation for myself, and may see things that he doesn't about the situation at hand, and he needs to trust me?