Dad moved in. He was very busy before he moved in, working (at 78) full time. Now that he moved in (7 hours from his home) he is sedentary. He didn't complain about his knees much before but now he can barely walk. He got shots in his knees (has been to ALL of the doctors) which was better for a few days. Now he is using a cane. I know he's not young and mom passing didn't help. He is completely bored, I get it. I work at home and I cant do everything for him. I try to get him involved. I took him to my civic club meeting to introduce him to people in his own age, I got him involved with a lodge locally and introduced him to someone his own age to help him get active. He likes to go to lunch every day but he does not have the money (fixed income) I am strapped for cash right now so I cant help him out. I do not ask him for any money to live here just he pay his bills from his SS money. He has no hobbies except construction. I gave him a few pieces of furniture (he loves to do that) to refinish but he did one and stopped. He says he cant read long (PTSD), I got him a gym membership (went one day). I cant entertain him I know he is bored. I tried to get him to seek out volunteering but now his knees are an issue. I do have to work during the day. Even tho I'm at home he has to come into the office to "talk to someone". He won't help out by even putting a dish in the dishwasher (he will watch me do it tho). Mom did everything around the house. He will go to the store and get apples then say "make me a pie"! He is just now getting around to saying please and thank you. I am not trying to be mean. I am doing a bit of tough love but I have done so much for the past year I am tired. I make him go to his Dr. appts. alone because I want him to do things for himself while he can. Its not that I don't care I do but after being out of the house for 32 years I do things on my own. We have dinner with him every night. I make coffee for him every morning. I don't want to try to replace my mom but I can't be with him 24 hours a day. He has his own living area in the house, we invite him to be with us but we do like our own time. I have taken him on business trips with me during the day to get him out of the house. I mentioned him to go the the library etc.... but unless I set it up he wont do anything. He is not happy I am not going on our annual hunting trip as I am out of money (spent it on an 8 day fishing trip I took him on this summer) As long as he can drive around and go places he is good. He is going to visit my sister soon and some relatives for a week with a lot of driving and that worries me. He will be fine doing that as it is normal for him and he will be back in the home area (spending money he doesn't have) but once he gets home from that I am out of ideas.