Hello friends. Dad is not wealthy by all means, but has a retirement of sorts and social security. He's been in and out of hospitals, now skilled nursing through out this summer. I've noticed everywhere he goes he targets a woman, or even two, he feels he can manipulate with money, and he actually does accomplish this sadly, then bribes her or them with cash tips, insisting they take it, of course they do, then he tells them he wants to hire them to take care of him. Because he targets the types who would take money from an elderly man, it works. Then the women start flirting with him, which is obvious, this is when I can tell things are going bad, then he tells me he wants to hire that woman to take care of him when he goes home. Then the woman gets an attitude towards me because she knows it's not right and I won't approve.
This is the third time it's happened at a facility and he is really getting ready to go home this time too. I'm DPOA for him, so the only people getting hired, are ones I hire, but I can't take care of him because I work about 35 hours a week, have my own home and have a daughter living with me and I know if I allow this, he'll cash out his retirement and write any woman who will do this a check basically, or just cash it and give her cash every week till it's gone, basically she'd get double pay. I know even if I go through a company for home health care, this will happen again, he has an eye for a lower class frankly. The most recent incident was last week, he called my brother and asked him to bring him cash. He did not call me because I'm DPOA for him and he knew I wouldn't fall for this. Brother took him 200.00. Brother called me after the fact, and wanted to know why Dad needed cash, I said he didn't, he gets everything he needs. Brother insistently got mad, said he is bribing people again? I said if that's what you want to call it, it probably went to his two nurses. Brother is angry, I'm angry. I go to Dad, he claims brother never came out, is too cheap to pay for the gas for the drive, but the day nurse was obviously flirting with dad, freaked when she saw me, left and then didn't come back to his room, when she normally would have. I'm thinking on reporting this, but I can't prove it. Any creative ideas on controlling dads behavior, keeping him from doing this, or overall protecting his funds from him actually getting to it after he gets back home would be greatly appreciated. He is a womanizer. I'm thinking about hiring all men if I can for home health care if it's possible.