Im hoping some of you can relate to what im asking about... Im 52 and my 'boy'friend is 54 (certainly not teenagers!). My boyfriend is a full-time carer for his mum; which I totally respect. The problem is, however, how can I get him to realise that him and 'us' need to have a life of our own?? His mother is a lovely lady and I know that she would be incensed if she realised he wont get on with his own life. Im more than willing to include her in anything we do. I would never shut her out; I would just like some 'balance'. He is always saying he cant do .... whatever, because he has to be on call for his mother. Were not getting any younger ourselves (I had a serious stroke recently, which certainly had an impact on my outlook). I've suggested him arranging for his sister to care sometimes; but he wont even consider it. I feel hes waiting for her to die (sorry for saying that) until he'll start his/our life. Who knows when this may be... I may go first.