My husband (alz) took a nap today and woke in a poopy mess. I put him in the shower and changed the bed. Then he sat in his chair in the den and watched tv.
He is so rational much of the time I almost forget something is wrong until 5 minutes later he asks me something out of the blue. I cooked supper and then asked him to come get his plate and drink. We eat in the den where we have eaten for years. He said no. My back was hurting so bad and I have congestive heart failure. I am 70, he is 72. It made me so angry I wanted to throw his plate at him. I knew if he was normal he would have jumped to help me. It is just so hard sometimes to remember he isn't himself. He is getting more and more selfish like this. After an incident like this I feel so guilty because I know he can't help it but it is so hard. How do I deal with this. I was angry a good 20 minutes and I know I am only hurting myself.