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She is stealing and taking advantage of him. But here is the catch...she has him convinced that it is his children that are doing wrong. He will not go to a Dr appt without her being there and she is the one that speaks for him. Last time I said something to him about how I felt he wouldn't talk to me for about 6-7 years.

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lynnie8, sorry you didn't like any of our answers. Forums are give and take, and not everyone will be in agreement. We learn that way.
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When we took him to the new dr was a month after he had seen the quack. The quack had just given him a six month refill. I am NOT keeping meds from my dad. I would never do anything like that and I am truly sick of being attacked. If it were you in my spot I most certainly would not be saying things like that to you. We tried to get the bottles of the old meds but the sponge already had them and was gone by the time we got back to my father home with the new meds that the new dr put him on. He us already in less pain and is actually eating again. So go ahead a say I am doing wrong or I am with holding things. I am truly sorry that I even asked a question to all of you rude heartless people. I hope that none of you ever get taken advantage of.
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LilaJean, you make a good point. I know whenever I run out of a certain prescription medicine, I cannot get a refill until I make an appointment to see the doctor.
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When do(es) the prescription(s) expire? If the doctors have taken him off of medication, he will need a prescription to refill. Unless, he is seeing both doctors at the same time practicing in two different ways?
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Lynnie8, all pharmacies and MD's report to the feds. Especially Medicare.
If you are holding back and not giving him prescribed meds, I hate to say this, but you will be charged with elder abuse. Tread carefully.
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Lynnie, curious, how is your Dad paying for his cancer treatments and his prescription medicines? Unless your Dad is quite wealthy, he couldn't be able to afford either.
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Ok so first off she is not a girlfriend. Secondly yes we have gotten along in the past. He has gone to quack pill pushing drs that over prescribe pills. We have taken him to a different dr and he no longer needs to take the pills but she fills them and sells them. So yhat is how it goes by unnoticed. My father has no insurance and that is also how it has not been flagged. She keeps the money for herself so she can keep up her pot use. We have tried to turn her in but my dad always keeps her out of trouble.
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daughter2of2, well it sounds like the daughter and the girlfriend have never gotten along, so it makes me wonder if the girlfriend was pulling her leg about selling the drugs just to get a rise out of her.

Health insurance companies monitor pills now a day, they know exactly how many pills are going out and when the refill is coming in. If something is out of whack, the doctor will receive a notice from the insurance company.
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Freqflyer you make a substantial point! It does bother me that this person admits to selling the Dad's pain meds; would be interested to know what she is providing to him with the money received..
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Well 14 years is a long relationship, and even with your Dad's memory issues she is still there to help him out. Your Dad wouldn't talk to you for 6 to 7 years, and your Dad was probably healthy and of clear mind back then. So that means you weren't around to help him for all those years, but she was.

Instead of working against this woman who is there taking care of your Dad, why not work as a team.
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Does this person have any 'legal' responsibility for your Father? Or perhaps you or a sibling has a Power of Attorney? for Finances and/or Medical issues? If your Father has memory problems, perhaps his physician can suggest he needs a Family Member to take care of these chores on his behalf? Can you get an appointment for your Father and not let this other person know that you are taking him to see the doctor?
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She has told me she sold some of his pain meds but the dr needs proof.
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Well she has been with him for around 14 years. She acts like his granddaughter. He has stage 4 cancer and yes he does have memory issues. She sells his meds and gives him extra meds. I have told the dr but without evidence he cannot do much.
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Sounds a bit spotty. Without real evidence, you keep your mouth shut and your eyes open.
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We need more information, lynnie. What are your Dad's health issues, does he have memory issues? Where is he living, does she live with him? How do you know that the *sponge* is taking advantage of him? How long has she been with him, apparently 7 years if not more?
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