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I cared for my mom for seven years (full time) and now three more relatives (including my father) at various levels; trying to remain in their homes. I am helping in just about every situation (cooking, errands, cleaning, lawn care). In addition to my previous Bachelors degree (art, anatomy) and certificate (nutrition), I took a short course to further my knowledge in training (no certification, just for the information..........is there anyway I could get funded (gas and other) because they are on a very fixed disability income and I do not want to ask them. So far I have been using my own savings and volunteering. It is full time at this present time. Any guidance would be very appreciated. Thank you!

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If Medicaid is not an option, you could check to see if they are eligible for VA benefits. If they served during a declared war or are disabled as a result of their military service, they may qualify for a few hours of home health each week as well as free meds and essential medical supplies. Once my dad (a WWII veteran) was approved for VA home health, we were given part-time help through Visiting Angels (bathing, meal prep, and light housekeeping) as well as short-term physical and occupational therapy to teach him mobility safety and to give him the right kind of exercise. I believe the VA may also pay you a small portion for running errands your loved ones are no longer able to run. Their help has been a lifesaver for my dad!
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SaladShop, the vast majority of grown children who are caregivers do not get paid unless the parent can pay from their own savings.

As BarbBrooklyn above had mentioned, are they on Medicaid? Some States have programs where a family caregiver can get paid, but note the pay would be very minimal.

How fair is this??? The 3 relatives, which includes your Dad, are trying to remain in their own homes, while you are emptying out your own savings. This needs to stop. The relatives will need to start to pay for their own way, even if it means selling their homes and using the equity for their care, and moving into senior living or hiring caregivers to help while they remain in their homes.

You need to sit down and figure out a plan that is agreeable. Get the ball rolling. Or you will find yourself with very little funds for your own care.  And here is something to think about, what if something happens to you?  Then what?  I know, this is tough love, but sometimes we need that wake-up call. 
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Are they on Medicaid?
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