I'm so frustrated with my life. I'm so alone. I'm the sole caregiver of my Grandmother. Any other "grandchildren" caregivers?

Hi, I'm taking care of my grandmother in law, her son and two grandchildren want nothing to do with her now my husband and I are living with her in our home. I am the one who's doing all the work. I should have never agree for her to move in with us, and now I am her caregiver it's annoying.

Grandchildren seem to be taking on an increasing role in caregiving. One reason is that they have done much of the child rearing. I believe that it's extra hard for you since you're at a time in your life when you truly should be able to have more freedom to map out your future to some degree.

Both of you may want to read this article on grandchildren prompted by a couple of heart breaking notes that I received from young caregivers and also some on the agingcare forum.

https://www.agingcare.com/articles/grandchildren-caring-for-their-grandparents-149490.htm

To grandaughters - your husband should be doing his share of this work. Certainly the rest of the family should be too, but insist on help. Moving an elder into your home is a huge step. Doing so at a presumably young age has got to be harder.

To both of you - you aren't alone. Please keep coming back to the site and posting your thoughts. There is a lot of knowledge in this community. Also, if your grandmothers have any specific ailments such as diabetes or Alzheimer's look to those disease specific sites for education and help.

Keep us posted!
Carol

Wow...we should be adopted sisters:) sounds like me exactly!! I'm the only child of an only child and have cared for my grandmother since she was 85 and she is 99 on the 27th of August. I have had to take care of her in the community, then living with me, then in the nursing home, then back with me. In between I took care of my mom and my dad and their farm and apartments...can you say burned out?? I know how you feel and I'm giving you a big hug. Maybe we should connect to talk more. I know I feel alone too. At least we would have someone to talk to that can relate. (((HUG)))

Burned out? Who wouldn't be? You're really had a load. Love the people as we may, there does get to be a limit to what people can do.
I hope that you can find some form of respite,
Carol

i understand completely what you are going through, I am a caretaker for my 94 year old grandfather, and my Mom and Sister are not willing to help, There is hope I think, just have to take it day by day.