Frustrated with my husbands obsession with urine, bowels, and passing gas. Any advice?

Oh my!

Everybody is doing it!

Hubby is 93. I'm guessing because of his dementia, the only thing that is "regular" in his life if bathroom issues. He's so concerned that he'll p_e in his pants (he's wearing pull ups) and will have a bowel movement.
ok, several things. 1) we're going to the gastrologist in a couple of days to see what's happening. 2) he's on meds to help bowel movements and he does get bound up 3) it's very embarrassing to him (and it'd be to me also) to need someone else to wipe me after a movement or help me pull up my pants.
I'm getting frustrated because bowel movements, although come about every 3 days (and I'm ok with that) happen before and after meals. He can't help it. And God bless him, he tries to help me any way he can because I clean him up.
I sometimes wish I could just tell him to p_e in his pants and leave it at that.
Like I said, he's acting like this because it is the only thing left in his life that's very consistent. He even forgets that he's eaten a meal or that his clothes have been changed from day to nite and visa versa. I'm done with complaining as I don't need to clean a diaper.

08/24/16.... cheyenne, if hubby is constantly passing gas, he might be diary intolerant. Experiment with removing all dairy from his diet, except if he likes milk he can use LACTAID® brand milk which taste just like regular milk. LACTAID® also makes good tasting ice cream. Sometimes as we age, our tummy's can't handle dairy.

I was thinking that, also, fredflyer, but he only has about 1/4 cup a day on his cereal.

08/25/16.... Cheyenne, my Mom use to give Dad cottage cheese, shredded cheese, yogurt saying "a little bit won't hurt" but I know for myself as I am lactose intolerant that a little bit does cause stomach aches. Buy a small carton of LACTAID milk and experiment with that for two weeks. It usually takes two weeks to notice any change.

Another food issue is gluten, as wheat rye oats and barley can cause stomach rumblings. Try some gluten free cereal such as Chex brand. For sandwiches there is gluten free bread. The gluten free cookies are pretty good :) The large grocery stores usually will have one section of "gluten free" products. Again, worth a try for two weeks.