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My friend has several siblings. Her mom is under the control of one of her sons. This son does not have a home or stable living conditions. He moves her from hotel to hotel. Last week in this heat wave in Los Angeles. He leaves her in a storage unit? She says he says things like that to get attention. On the 18th he admits her to a hospital, and takes her out the next day. Mom has 7 kids, 3 of these kids have homes to take care of her. She wanted me to go to hospital today to give them information? I was going to call social services for that hospital. I wrote information about our conversation last night, as I remembered her telling me. She in turn says I got the story wrong, and now she doesn't want me involved. This scenario has been going on for over 2 years, but having a mother stuck in a shed, shack or storage unit is not a joke. It is serious. Bad enough she was hospitalized for a night. He gets angry when she soils herself. He is not able to safely take care of mom any more. Who should my friend call to get her mom out from under this man who sticks her in a a storage unit in record breaking heat?

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I am dedicated to my friend who say she has brains.. basically, I do not.

Going to call APS. ASK THEM WHAT THEY SAY, WHAT THEY GO BY AS HEARSAY, AND HOPEFULLY, believe a chance of what I say, that they will look into this narcissistic person of a son moving mom from here to there..

It has been more than 2 years...
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There is a SLIGHT possibility given what you have written that she, (your friends mom) may be frightened of the son and is fearful that either he may harm her in some way. (leaving her alone in a storage unit is a good example) Has there been any evidence of abuse other than leaving her? This included Physical, Mental, Emotional, Financial abuse.
Or she may be afraid that he will be charged and punished for his inappropriate care.
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Call the Ombudsman. They advocate for seniors and will help if you need to contact Adult Protective Services.
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I don't know how he did it, but I think the narcissistic son taking care of Mom is guardian. 3 of the kids live within 3 hour drive. But the man moves around so much.

Thank You. I will call Adult Protective Services. Friend seems to think they will not help..

From what friend says, she has to repeat anything the son says. "George takes care of me. I am safe."
Honestely for whatever reason the siblings are afraid that George might sue them. I told her to get that ball rolling, sue him first. go to family court and demand the judge to court appoint a social worker to them for supervised visitations where "supposedly" George and mom live. setup these visitations, perhaps social worker will see the condition in which they live, and how she is actually treated. If he doesn't follow court order, then what happens?
THANK YOU. I WILL CALL APS Monday. I was getting apprehensive about making that call.
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Where are the other children? Are they involved at all? One of the children should try to become her Guardian if she is not competent to care for herself. If she is competent there is not much that can be done about the situation.
You do need to call APS and have this investigated. (Trust me if something happens you will feel terrible!) That would be the first call to make. You can also ask if there is a free or low cost Senior Law service that would help with court procedures.
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Where are the other children? Are they involved at all? One of the children should try to become her Guardian if she is not competent to care for herself. If she is competent there is not much that can be done about the situation.
You do need to call APS and have this investigated. (Trust me if something happens you will feel terrible!) That would be the first call to make. You can also ask if there is a free or low cost Senior Law service that would help with court procedures.
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Call Adult Protective Services.
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