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Her husband has had cancer and treatment that appears to be no longer working. He is a lifelong diabetic with other multiple symptoms. Formerly very positive. How can I help?
Offer to be available to pick up prescriptions. Take food over once in a while. Offer to stay with him when she needs to get out to get a haircut or go for a walk. Walk their dog if they have one. Be there to listen. When you go to their house, don't stay long (unless she really wants you to).
One of the worst things I've dealt with is people visiting my LOs and staying too long. One stayed for 4 hours and brought their dog, which had to be inside during the visit! Half an hour or twenty minutes is enough time when the person is sick or just out of the hospital or dying. Visits are exhausting for the patient as well as the caregiver, who has a whole lot more to do than listen to visitors trying to cheer up the patient with interminable monologues about their last vacation, they new car they bought, or Aunt Sadie's bedsores.
Offer to sit with her husband so she can get out of the house for a bit. Bring a meal for both of them. Bring a few meals that you have portioned out and she can freeze. Put reheating instructions on the container. (use disposable containers so she does not have to worry about getting them back to you) Bring some groceries. Call her and say "Judy" I am going to the store is there anything you need Milk, eggs, bread, Ice cream? Next time you stop by bring coffee, some donuts or other "treat" and sit and ask her how SHE is. Rent a movie, bring popcorn, a box of Junior Mints or some Goobers and Raisinets. Sometimes just sitting and saying nothing can mean a whole lot. OH....A HUG give her a nice big long hug!
From my experience, the gold standard would be offering to stay with her LO while she does errands, or just gets away for a little break. There are so few opportunities for that when you are caring for someone. You're a great friend for wanting to help. You'll probably have to suggest something specific so it's good that you're getting ideas.
This is a question you ask the family. They may require help with driving to appointments, shopping, help in the home. It is up to you to offer what you may provide or to offer help. Most often it is someone to listen. Take care in not taking on more than you can. Consider starting with the simplicity of making a casserole for them once every few weeks.
Fawnby gave good advice. To add to that: maybe ask your friend if they have all their legal ducks in a row: PoA for bothe of them. Advance Healthcare Directives, Wills, updated beneficiaries, Make sure she knows where all important paperwork is, knows how to pay bills and when, has full and easy access to all of their assets, etc.
If she doesn’t then offer to help them make an appointment with a certified elder law attorney. Do they have adult children who are local? Who will help them if she needs more than what neighbors can provide?
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
One of the worst things I've dealt with is people visiting my LOs and staying too long. One stayed for 4 hours and brought their dog, which had to be inside during the visit! Half an hour or twenty minutes is enough time when the person is sick or just out of the hospital or dying. Visits are exhausting for the patient as well as the caregiver, who has a whole lot more to do than listen to visitors trying to cheer up the patient with interminable monologues about their last vacation, they new car they bought, or Aunt Sadie's bedsores.
I'm sorry your friend is facing this issue.
Bring a meal for both of them.
Bring a few meals that you have portioned out and she can freeze. Put reheating instructions on the container. (use disposable containers so she does not have to worry about getting them back to you)
Bring some groceries. Call her and say "Judy" I am going to the store is there anything you need Milk, eggs, bread, Ice cream?
Next time you stop by bring coffee, some donuts or other "treat" and sit and ask her how SHE is.
Rent a movie, bring popcorn, a box of Junior Mints or some Goobers and Raisinets.
Sometimes just sitting and saying nothing can mean a whole lot.
OH....A HUG give her a nice big long hug!
Consider starting with the simplicity of making a casserole for them once every few weeks.
If she doesn’t then offer to help them make an appointment with a certified elder law attorney. Do they have adult children who are local? Who will help them if she needs more than what neighbors can provide?
Bless you for being such a caring friend!