I find this very awkward. The two of them split up about 3 1/2 years ago. He says she didn't have symptoms of dementia at the time, although I don't know much about it. I met him at church a few months after my husband died around that same time, and became part of his circle of friends, which included this woman, "Stella." She seemed very sweet and nice, and he didn't tell me for a year that they used to be an item. She was diagnosed about a year ago at the age of 68, and her younger brother moved her into a memory care facility. He chauffeured her around but now is moving to California and has called on my boyfriend (who is 80) to take over driving Stella. For free, of course. He wants to do it, but I find it very awkward, and I imagine she does as well. She still recognizes both of us and the friends, although she can't remember which handbag is hers or how many bedrooms are in her apartment. Am I being too selfish to see this as an imposition? My bf is saying that he may not be able to take a trip we had planned (mainly at my expense as he has very little) because he is "on call" for Stella.