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Things aren't going well at nursing homes and the two she has been at refuse to take her back. I want to try her being at home but my family only gives me the negative reason why we can't have at home. I see the positive and want to try.

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It is very kind of you to want to help, but trust me, i have taken on my moms care with help of a caretaker while i work and my entire life is working and coming home and taking care of my mom. Realize you would end up having to ask your family members to watch them if you need to get away and pretty much have sacrifice your entire free time for their care
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I reported this spammer about an hour ago; at that time there were 7 spam posts, with slightly different variations.

Any spammer who thinks that he/she is fooling people by dredging up older posts and tailoring the answer while including advertisements needs to go back to marketing school and learn some basic business tactics.

I think Jessie's right - there's probably one employee working for this company and that's the spammer.

On the other hand, if any business is obtained through this website, and the hiring person discovers that the advertisement, claims and representations are false, he/she has recourse to file a complaint with the FTC for false advertising. Might even have grounds to sue the company as well.

Wouldn't that be a surprise to this spammer?
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Makes me want to hire that company. I would certainly entrust my elder parent to a company that advertises via spam. Must have an employee count of one.
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Jessie, you are so right... I found the very same posting on about a half dozen other threads.
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Don't you hate it when people do sneaky spam?
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It would be nice if you are able to visit with her regularly when she goes to the nursing home. It seems to really brighten their day.

Some residents seldom get visitors. When I go to visit my cousin, who is in Memory Care, I say hello to all of those that I see. They seem to appreciate a smile and kind word asking how they are doing. I've even arranged to host treats for my cousin's Birthday party for all of those in her section. I'm not sure if that's allowed in a nursing home, but you could check. ( She was in Assisted Living.) Just the slightest thing seems to make a big impression.
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caregiver67, how very kind of you to want what is best for your friend, and how smart of you to seek the opinions for persons with experience!
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Thank you for your responses, they help quite a bit. Right now it looks like she is not coming home anytime soon
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Or you can spend the whole day at the nursing home, maybe 24 hours if possible to give you an idea what is needed throughout the day... you may find you would be way over your head in giving your friend care.
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Once she is in a nursing home you could bring her home for an overnight visit and see how that goes. I think they are allowed 19 overnights a year. I started out that way and it gave me confidence and knowledge. I am not sure how it works for a friend who is not family. Best of luck to you!
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I want to thank everyone for their input. Right know it looks like she may be going to a nursing that hopefully is better equipped to handle her safely.
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I agree with the other replies that bringing your friend into your home is probably not a good idea, especially since you don't have the support of your family. Where is her family? If she has none - well, I hope if I am without family at the last
stage of my life, I hope I have a good friend like you. Instead maybe put your efforts towards making her stay at the nursing home better. Visit when you can, take little treats she might enjoy and butter up the staff in the hopes they might provide your friend with a little comfort and attention.
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Have you ever cared for someone who has had a stroke? I'd find out what that involves before even considering such a thing. It may be a full time job, 24/7. Plus, if it doesn't work out, what is the back up plan? Do you have special training? Insurance in case she falls and gets hurt? Is your house designed with safety equipment, like hand rails in bathroom?

Plus, I'd keep in mind the possibility that she would have to pay out of pocket for her medical care if she leaves rehab. There doesn't seem to be many positives, that I see from what you describe.
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I agree completely with what Eyerishlass wrote. You may soon learn the reason that things did not go well and why the facilities don't want her back. Where is her family? I wondered why you felt responsible for taking on such a huge task.
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If your friend is on her 3rd nursing home (which isn't "going well") and the previous two won't allow her to come back I'd think long and hard about moving her into your home with your family especially since your family has told you that they don't want her to move in. What is everyone seeing that you're not seeing? And do you really want to place the needs of your friend above the needs of your family?
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Whenever someone has a stroke, they need to have day physical therapy to help get them back on the road to health. If she leaves the facility against medical advice, she might run into the situation where her health insurance will not pay for any future treatments for her.... thus, no physical therapy at home, or any payments in relation to the stroke, such as speech therapy if she needs it.

I would listen to the doctors first and foremost. This isn't their first rodeo.
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