I am nearly at my wit’s end. My grandmother just went into a high-risk surgery at 97, and literally wrote a check for $5,000 to a so-called friend in her life for about 15 years. This man is about 65 and is gay and is married, and my personal feeling is they have been sucking up to my grandparents for several years, so much so that they have included them in their trust. It started out as a $5000 bond account about ten years ago. My grandfather died five years ago and she’s been adding more and more money since the couple help her live independently. It’s now up to $75K plus a $25K vehicle.
She just wrote another check on the bond account for $5K literally an hour before she went into a high risk surgery for a hip fracture.
The couple and I tolerate each other since she is my elder’s friend and they do “help” her. They are not really my friends, and when I start to ask questions, the one who got the check gets pissy with me. He knows I’m always watching things. I am my grandmother’s closest relative since everyone else in family is deceased. A 1/2 brother is nonexistent given family dysfunction which I feel the guys manipulate. My grandmother says she “depends on them” but doesn’t want to bother me with some chores since I’m out of town.
My concern is this couple is abusing their so-called friendship and exploiting her for more and more money. Why do 60+ year gay men strike up relationships with people who are 30 years older? Seems very odd to me.
I am joint owner on her checking account and have POA in financial matters in her health is incapacitated. What are my rights and how can I intervene with these guys milking her $$$ preying upon her in her times of need?! I don’t trust these guys.