My husband’s adult children (all older or my same age) who’ve never liked me made a boat load of allegations against me to the elder abuse dept. They were bogus allegations and I understand that they have to check out every allegation. Mine were all found to be unsubstantiated BUT what can I do to those who made the allegations? His “kid’s” haven’t been involved in any of his care yet have an opinion and fight with me every step of the way. His been in the facility since May 2018.
One Sat his brother (decided to help his “kid’s”) signed him out for “lunch” and took him out of state to empty out our joint checking acct and opening a new acct in my husband’s name ONLY. The same day the dtr closed all of our joint acct’s including our Direct tv and AT&T acct pretending to be me. She made an acct on the “my social security” website giving her access to have my husband’s check deposited in his new acct. (we found out bc my husband was not physically with his dtr when she did this it wasn’t legal for her to do) A nightmare getting things reversed and her access removed.
Back to Sat: When my husband returned from doing the bank “stuff” he called wanting to come home for a late afternoon visit. I picked him up and told him that my debit card was declined at lunch and when I went on line I seen our joint acct had all the money transferred into a new acct in his name only. I asked what was going on. He said he wasn’t exactly sure but his dtr told him I wasn’t paying the care home and that I was out opening credit cards in his name only and charging $12,000 against him. His dtr called my phone as he was telling me this. She acted like we were best friends. I told her what her uncle had done she acted all kinds of upset and said she’d call him to see what was up. I got a call from “her uncle” yelling that the cops were coming to arrest me and that they were moving my husband closer to them. I hung up. Then the dtr called me all upset telling me her “uncle” hired an attorney and was filing charges against me etc THEN she wanted to talk to her dad which I gave him my phone. It wasn’t long that an officer was knocking on my door telling me that a female family member had called in that I had taken my husband against his will from the care home. I started to respond and he stopped me by saying let me explain. He went to the care home bc he thought if this was true the care home should have called it in so he went there first. The nurse showed where my husband signed himself out as I was getting his meds he needed to take with supper. She told him we walked down the hall together. My husband came into the living room and the officer asked him if he felt safe with me? Did he want to be there with me? Did I force him to come visit? He told him he always felt safe with me and I picked him up bc he called me to come get him. So the dtr calls again still acting dumbfounded and like we were best friends and I tell her about what just happened and that it was a female family member and I asked her who it could have been? She was quick to tell me it had to be her aunt. She asked to talk to her dad again and I handed him my phone. I found out when I took my husband back that it was the dtr who I’d been talking to the whole time who had done it bc she told the nurse on the 4th time she called that she did it bc the nurse wouldn’t side with her. This was a Saturday AND Sunday it continued until my husband called the dtr and his brother before he went to bed that night that he wanted everything stopped. He told them he was staying right where he’s at close to his wife. The dtr cried trying to change his mind. The brother said he’d stand by whatever he wanted. Monday morning my husband with the help of the social worker called the bank reversing everything that was done on Saturday. We thought it was over HA!! I was told that “someone” needed to talk to us at 10:30. I got hit with 3 pages of allegations. Can anyone guide me in the right direction?