Follow
Share
Read More
This question has been closed for answers. Ask a New Question.
Find Care & Housing
If you insist that he’s some sort of sex pest, the mc will eventually insist that he leave.

Assuming he is not masturbating or grabbing women in public, he isn’t a sex pest.
Helpful Answer (1)
Report

My mom was on the younger side (in her 70's) and had dementia when she moved into assisted living. There were very few men there and even less that were able to half way converse. My mom and a male resident struck up a friendship. They held hands, dined together and watched movies together. He was older and more physically broken down and my mom was fine physically, but mentally not sound. At first it bothered me, but then I thought....without each others company, what quality of life do either of them have? I work full time and have a house and family to take care of...I can't be there with her 24 hrs a day...but he can. They were companions for at least five years until he passed. He was like a member of our family. Without him, my mom quickly worsened and moved to lock down memory care.

Had he been aggressive physically/sexually or if I felt he was taking advantage of my moms mental state, I would have intervened, but that never happened.
I guess the appropriate response needs to be on a case by case basis. Even if your mom were still alive, your dad may be so far into his dementia that he may not remember he is married and has a wife. It is just part of the disease...he doesn't know what he is doing and it sounds like the facility isn't too concerned so it must be pretty platonic at this point.
Helpful Answer (2)
Report

My husband's dad was always a cheat and was married 4 times. My father-in-law ended up in an assisted living facility even while his 4th wife was still alive and of course he fell for one of the aides there who was from some foreign island. He promised her $25K from his estate when he died and when that actually happened the aide tried to challenge the family. His estate wasn't a whole lot larger than that to begin with, so of course my husband and his siblings fought the aide and won because there wasn't anything in writing. Just be careful....maybe have a chat with your dad that you can forgive his behavior so long as he doesn't give away your inheritance....just sayin!
Helpful Answer (5)
Report

Nope. Not your business. Not your problem.
Helpful Answer (0)
Report

This question has been closed for answers. Ask a New Question.
Ask a Question
Subscribe to
Our Newsletter