Since 2001, I was my mom's sole caregiver living in her home. I have two siblings who never provided much assistance or support.

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bsmith, curious what you mean when you posted "Only since my mom’s recent death, did I even know that support even exists for caregivers.".... what type of support are you referencing?

As for your mother's home, do you feel you should have gotten the house 100% in exchange for all your care? Sadly, as you wrote your Mom never updated her Will to make that reference. There are no laws to turn that around. It's the parent's responsibility to make those changes.

I know you don't want to hear this, but your siblings probably were right that your Mom needed to have been placed in a continuing care facility, but I can understand why you wanted your Mom at home under your care... you made that choice to give up employment and your life for your Mom.

Believe me, there are many family caregivers who wished they had a time machine to go back in time and do things differently. It's all a learning process, lot of trial and error.
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Your option is to take your portion of the estate as a down payment and purchase the home. Ask the executor.
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I never realized the difficult caregiver journey and sacrifice before me. Only since my mom’s recent death, did I even know that support even exists for caregivers. I foolishly never even knew enough to truly care for myself and myself became ill.

In 2006, my mom became very sickly due to prescription medication. At that moment, she wanted to update her 35 year old will and give me health care power of attorney. Instead I placed financial matters aside to focus 100 percent on her medical care, stupidest mistake of my life. The moment to update her will and give POA never came. She had a series of medical mishaps and we went on a LONG tiring emotional rollercoaster.

After 2007, she needed lots of assisted living. By 2011, she began requiring 24 7 care. It became difficult to earn a living except to work part-time from home. By 2012, it was drained on every level trying to provide assistance to her. I wanted my mom to remain home and my two siblings fought to have her in a facility. I had a health care proxy, but my siblings ignored it. I eventually won, but it was very taxing.

During these times, my siblings were way more of a burden than any actual assistance. They pretty much disregarded me and my role as sole caregiver as it wasn't in writing.

Anyhow my mom died, and immediately the executor stepped in to begin proceedings. They want to clear out the house and sell it immediately and divide the estate equally amongst us. They only see the home as an asset, I see it as a place to heal and mourn. I would like to stay here for a while to regain stability and get myself back together. The psychologist says I show signs of PTSD and it makes sense.

My giving full time care kept my mom from draining her assets and selling her home. And my siblings had no burdens and never had to sacrifice their very functional lives.

I imagine I have absolutely no rights as the role of caregiver isn't really recognized. But I am willing to listen to any suggestions or advice.
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I was referencing the support and insightful messages found on places such as here. If I had only known to read these caregiver anecdotes six years ago, the outcome would be far different. Especially without power of attorney the road as caregiver becomes even tougher. For their very survival, every child should be taught finance and every caregiver should have access to very basic information regarding the law.

Just as a sidenote, my sisters did provide some support in the beginning, but ultimately were no longer able due to being married with children, working and living far away. My mom actually made a super recovery on a better diet and supplements, but went into a facility after my brief illness and subsequent operation as neither of my sisters could take my mom into their homes.

Anyhow, I have reached out to my sisters to attempt a buyout, one has agreed and wants to do whatever it takes and seems way more reluctant. More than ever, I realize how much the house means to me in trying to preserve my parent's legacy.
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that should have stated, "one has agreed and wants to do whatever it takes and *one* seems way more reluctant.
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