Former caregiver taking my mother to her house from AL. How do I stop this?

When you try to call ex-caregiver, do you call her cell or house phone? House phone, you can fet an address and send certified letter to cease and desist, cell, send a text and save it. Most can also tell you that message has been delivered, screen shot and print both. If need be you may have to restrict her outings for her own protection. One huge concern is that mom has spent alot of money on this person recently. Is mom using a credit card, checks, debit card? It maybe time for you to cancel her cards, put a freeze on her credit to avoid identity theft, open different accounts at the bank (very easy to order checks on line without your knowledge) check her credit reports from all 3 credit bureaus to make sure nothing else was open in her name or as a signer eg auto loans, store credit cards etc. Also check with the bank to ensure no other large funds were transferred or transactions were done on her account. Also check county website to make sure there are no new loans or mortgages on the property. This person is taking mom for a ride and mom needs your protection from this shark as in yesterday. This other person is quite aware of mom's dementia and will use her till the well goes dry. I feel a drought coming on. Have all SSI and pension payments switched to new accounts. I'm sorry for everything you are going through and with perseverance you will also get thru this. I would also file a police report with copy of text or letter attached to it incase you have need of it in the future to verify that you have asked her to stop taking advantage of mom. The better the paper trail the better your chances of stopping this. Also make sure to get a copy of the report, officer's business card for your personal records. What a mess this person has created. Was she hired thru an agency and still employed by them? If so send a letter there too for her.

I just remembered something from my mother's time in a NH. They put an alarm bracelet around her ankle. It sounded an alarm AND locked the door if she tried to go out or take it off. They would have to unlock the door from the nurses station. Most of the personnel knew me but there were a couple of times that I had to show them an ID that matched their records before they would unlock the door. Maybe you could see about one of for your Mom.

The message I read here is that this if the FORMER caregiver. Well intentioned or not, this is very upsetting to your mother. She should be spoken to by you, especially about the "secretly taken her to her home."

Okay, now I read your post that it stopped for a short while. What happened after that or did I miss something?

Hi AT1234. I agree with most of the others here. Your mother's former caregiver should be out of the picture entirely. I think you can report her to whatever agency she works for, or used to work for. If she is still working, she may be fired. If she is no longer working, she might have to face civil or criminal charges. I think you owe it to your mother to protect her in whaotever means necessary. Report her to the AL where your mother lives now and remove this woman's name from the list of people authorozed to take your mother off campus. Get written authorization from her doctor if necessary. If that fails, go to court and get a restraining order. If THAT fails, you call the police and have her arrested. This woman is a danger to your mom. It's your job to put a stop to it before something bad happens.
Good luck to you.

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