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I am suggesting solutions for the worst case scenario-not to imply that is your father's issues, but it may help others to know this.
As it so often happens with new posters-we try to help, are standing by, but they either forget, cannot find their post, do not feel any reciprocal obligation or thanks, or may be embarrassed to have to answer too many more questions.
Some are even offended.
We hope the best outcome, and would welcome them to the forum.
But it is okay. Some posters will add their comments in general.
One idea that I have thought of: Get control of any social security funds or SSI income right away by taking Dad down to the Social Security Office. There may be a rep. payee (the partner?) and these funds may go to an account that Dad is not aware of, or remembers. Or their monies may have been co-mingled and in a mess.
Be sure, as a condition for helping Dad, that he assigns you as rep-payee to receive and distribute his money-age 87 is not too early if he cannot take care of himself. Go right away-with any retirement income-it can be limited and you don't want to be forced to also support him financially.
Someone else mentioned checking to see if your dad has a savings. That would be a very good start toward hiring some help for your dad and getting him into some kind of placement. If he has no money, you may want to see if you can get him some kind of federal benefits like Social Security. If he's getting Social Security then he's most likely eligible for Medicaid or Medicare.
* If your dad has any belongings in this partner's house, definitely go get them back and return them even if it means taking a cop with you. Don't back down until everything belonging to your dad is out of that house.
Place him in a board and care home, suitable to his needs.
If he is a veteran, they can help.
If not, SSI and Medicaid can help.
Sorry but there are reasons - many justifiable - why someone was kicked out.
Anyone taking someone else in should carefully consider the consequences.
Do you know (from the partner's perspective) why such a cold action was taken against your Dad?
Let me know, please, because I feel that I am about to kick my husband to the curb any minute now, and I would hate to be judged as cold!
Wait! Phoenix was right, we need more information. Was your Dad and his 40 year partner kicked out of their home? Or, did just Dad get kicked out?
Do you know why he was kicked out and didn't just move out? Everyone may have hard times, but you are not obligated to caregive. Just see to it he gets a place to go. Can you manage that? My sympathies for your dilemma.
You don't seem terribly involved (no judgment here, just an observation) maybe it's time to step up and help out. If the relationship is past saving, then find help for your dad in your home. He has to have some money, and Medicare does pay for some in-home care. Does he NEED 24/7, or could you get by with a 3 times a week caregiver that's not you? Too many unknowns for us to jump in and make many good suggestions.
Does he own property? Does he have financial nest egg?
Maybe we can give some ideas.
Does he own property? Does he have financial nest egg?
Maybe we can give some ideas.