My mother with moderate dementia has the option of undergoing minor surgery on her hand for her 'trigger finger'. She has complained often for at least 6 months of the discomfort and annoyance. I finally get her an appointment and a go ahead for possible surgery. Now she expresses to me she has fears of the surgery. She isn't really afraid of the surgery but is afraid of the anxiety she feels about it and now says she can "live with" the finger as it is. I know what's coming. She will start the complaints about the finger again forgetting that we have been to the doctor. My question is, should I force her to go through with it. It is basically an elective surgery.