OK, right now I'm beginning the Medicaid application process (in NJ, BTW). It's taken me longer than expected to gather together all of Mom's pertinent documents (Mom's always been notorious about not keeping everything in one place) and I'm still waiting on some paperwork re: her pension income.
Right now the current medical advice has her in short-term rehab through the 22nd. She's in the "days 21-60" phase of her Medicare insurance and we're paid up through that date (paid in full through the 11th, agreement to make payments monthly through 2015 to cover the rest).
Unfortunately, rehabilitation has not gone as expected. I genuinely thought she'd make enough progress to come back home eventually, but right now I cannot see that happening, as in some ways she's actually regressed. IMO LT care is going to be a must for Mom. Aside from her SSI, her pension (state, from her late husband) and her house (maybe 100K-125K) she has no assets to speak of.
I guess my main question is: can they "force" me to bring her home after the specified date? I've been advised that maybe I can place her LT "medicaid pending" but what if she isn't accepted? I am currently living in the house as I've been caring for her (PT from roughly 2010-2013, FT since then) and right now I don't have the resources to move anyplace else. If I can place her LT (or even get them to extend her ST stay) I can begin to rebuild my own life and move on, but right now that's just not possible as even having her in a ST rehab is almost a FT job in and of itself.
Anyone else have a similar situation? is there anything I absolutely should or shouldn't do or say? At the moment I am pressing her doctors for some sort of diagnosis, as her faculties are obviously slipping (and IMO very quickly). Does it even matter re: a diagnosis? Thanks in advance for any and all tips, appreciate it.