Boyfriend and younger brother (in 30s) live with their parents on a farm. Boys run the family biz, both parents are alcoholics (60s), and abusive. Old man verbally abuses both sons, telling my own disabled boyfriend to "kill himself" - even on his birthday. Their mother passes out and then plays the guilt trip to whomever will listen. I've lost my patience with both family members, but still get along with the younger 3 of their children. I hear what my guy has to go through everyday, and he feels like he takes his anger and hostility out on me, when I'm trying to be the person he vents to. He has come close to considering doing harm to himself because of what his father has said to him over the past few months. The old man has some sort of statement written into the land trust so that he cannot be forcibly removed from the house. I'm very close to emotionally filing a complaint against him for abuse on a disabled person. I've threatened my boyfriend I was going to do it before on his behalf, but I would like to know what the process is before I drive some rift into his family and potentially my relationship.