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When someone goes on a drug & dies soon after, it is not always the drug that caused death but the reason they took it in the first place! - we all have to all die at sometime but it is the quality of life they lead that makes difference -
When I was in high school the dr told Grannie that she should stop drinking tea which she loved - mom said something about trying to get her to quit but I said then that I'd rather she lived 6 months happy than 9 month miserable - I still believe that
The yelling & screaming is a stage & will quiet down when they move onto next stage - check that there is no physical reason first as above writers have said - FYI there is no right or wrong with this caregiving just do your best & try to do as you believe your dad would wish - good luck
These drugs should NEVER be given if the patient has any elements of Parkinson's whatsoever (including Lewy Body, or suspected Lewy Body). There has been a Black Box warning about this and it's often disregarded. Sometimes, Lewy Body is misdiagnosed as Alzheimer's, too. These drugs are given willy-nilly in nursing homes simply to silence patients. It's called "management." But really, it's elder abuse.
Researchers have used the Freedom of Information Act to dig up what has been hidden about these drugs, the hidden studies that show the dangers, and we can see what we should have been told all along.
Unfortunately I have watched many come through dad's memory care facility and no two cases are alike...a primary dr (tests) and psych dr (finding correct meds) should work together to find out what's happening w your loved one, and how to best serve him/her.
Tell them you would like to be involved in this process, and know up front, this might require some trial and error (so the one is not a zombie, alert during the day, and rests at night, etc)
I am the farthest advocate of drugs, yet Depakote was used as a mood stabilizer for my dad. This helped him balance out almost immediately...
Care for yourself...you will get through this and adjust to the new normals. This is the hard part, getting one stabilized, just do your best, and take care of yourself, too!
I go nearly every day and sometimes she is placid! Another time she tries to attack the staff and screams! She is on medication which calms her but if she refuses it she becomes violent again!
They cannot force her to take her mess so I just go not knowing what to expect! I make sure she is safe! She has bed sides up! And I try not to take it to heart when she verbally abuses me!
The next day she does not remember anything so I take it a day at a time and cope the best I can!