My 76 y/o mother recently fell, resulting in a pelvic and coccyx fracture. At the same time, my father was hospitalized for COPD and congestive heart failure complications. She ignored our advice to go to a doctor, tried to self diagnose her pain and self medicated with Percocet in the house from a previous surgery. In short, when she ran out of pills, the pain became too much and she called EMS. I live 600 miles away and my brothers handled everything until I got there. The hospital had her on significant pain medications and she was very confused about her situation. She refused to participate in PT/OT. After 10 days, the hospital transferred her to a rehab facility for more PT. My father had already been sent to rehab until he regained strength and could walk. I had to return home due to work/financial reasons. I called each of them multiple times daily. As they began to reduce her pain medication (oxycontin) and eventually eliminated it, she became angry with my brothers and me, accused us of trying to force her out of her house, steal her money, etc. She said she will never forgive us, we have humiliated her and she even threatened getting an attorney and suing us. All we have done is try to make sure they both get the medical care they need to get home safe and healthy and take care of their personal matters (bills, house, etc.) until they are able to take care of themselves. I was tired of being yelled at and belittled every time we talked, so I started checking in with my dad each day but not calling her. He has reported that she is very clear and seems to have the drugs out of her system. They are going home tomorrow. She, however, still blames my brothers and I for everything and is cutting us out of her life. She has always been very critical, judgmental and self-absorbed, at times belittling us, but now she is saying cruel things to everyone, including my father and the rehab/medical staff. I have two questions. Could this experience have brought out underlying dementia? And should I continue to try to contact her or respect her wishes and not be a part of her life until she is ready (if that ever happens)? This all breaks my heart but what is even harder is that this will cut my father out of our lives too. She is very controlling, has always belittled him and will likely prevent us from being able to talk with him. It seems like this experience has brought out the worst in her, possibly permanently. Does anyone have a similar experience and some advice?