I am writing because for the past two years, I have noticed symptoms of cognitive decline - or something else - in my mother (extreme forgetfulness, circular conversations, problems managing money, depression symptoms including excessive sleep). I live on the other side of the country and am only home 1-2 times a year. Recently, a friend of hers reached out to me because she had the same concerns.
I am not sure what to do next. My mother does not have the sort of personality where I can suggest she talk to her doctor (she would definitely get angry - to be clear, some of the distance between us is because she was abusive, but I still care about her). But there is definitely a need to have a formal assessment of some kind, perhaps a case worker that could come to her house when I am home for the holidays. Lately some of the signs have made me think I need to get someone out for a formal senior wellness check (the friend suggested she is living in near-squalor).
Where do you start when you can't just accompany your loved one to the doctor?