My mom is 81 and has always been on top of things. She still is on certain things, but not so much on others. But, what bothers me the most is her personality. Mom has always demanded respect and got mad if she thought I wasn't being respectful. We have had our clashes over the years. (I am an only child, by the way.) But, lately, she gets so mad at me - says I'm not the daughter I used to be, that I've changed, etc., etc. However, my dad, who lives with her, and I have noticed her anger getting worse, or sometimes, it's just sadness. She does have clinical depression, has for years, and is on meds, but this is different. For example, Mom decided not to participate in Thanksgiving activities this year with family. She has several medical issues, but she didn't come because she got too upset last night over something my dad said - another problem. All day, she has complained to mr and been weepy on the phone. Every year, we go to my mother-in-law's. She has been many times. We have always stayed until after dark. Right after we were finished eating tonight, Mom calls my mother-in-law, but I answered. She said she was wondering where my dad was - thought he'd had an accident since it was dark. I told her we had just finished. I could tell she was not happy. So, later, I called her, when I got home, and she said she didn't want to talk, that no one had called to check on her - Dad was gone about four hours - normal, not any longer than any year. She said we had a bad relationship, etc., all because I didn't call (didn't know I should because some days, she doesn't care when I call, and I just talked to her when Dad left to come. She could get out if she wanted to but chooses not to go places and then gets upset and mad. usually at Dad, but sometimes at both of us. A little info. on me - I have 7-yr.-old triplets and work full tiime. Sometimes, I feel like I can't stand another minute of being overwhelmed - I, myself, fight depression, and things are not very good right now, for me, either. I try to do everything she asks me to, but it's never enough, lately. I know she is depressed, and the doctor has changed her meds over and over, but it never helps.