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It's almost 2 months that I moved my 90 year old Mom and her dog in with me and I resent walking him and all the responsibilities that come with owning a dog. I don't want a dog! I have 2 cats that have lived with me since they were kittens and they are locked up in my bedroom. I keep saying to my Mom who has early dementia (not diagnosed) that my cats are in jail. What is bothering me is my Mom is so attached to this dog but it's causing me more stress.

I have enough stress taking care of my Mom and getting her to eat. I don't need this this extra stress. So why I am procrastinating in finding my Mom's dog (who became very attached to me) a good home? I guess my heart is too big, I don't know.

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Thanks all, I feel much better as I was really feeling guilty. Already my Mom is bonding with my cats and is enjoying them. I really tried to get the dog and my cats to get along but my cats were too afraid of him. I just couldn't take walking him in freezing weather with lots of ice on the ground, yeah, I fell down a couple of times myself.

My Mom had bad judgment when she adopted this dog a couple of years ago but I wasn't living with her then or I would have tried to talk her out of it. Oh well, such is life.
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My mother moved it with us about a year and a half ago and brought her stinky little dog with her. It hadn't been groomed in months and had poop balls hanging off her butt fur. She peed on the floor and ruined the wood laminate floors that I HAD JUST PUT IN.

The peeing and pooping on the floor improved when we put in a dog door for her (prior to the door, she was offered the opportunity o go out several times a day but would not/could not hold it overnight) As soon as we got the dog door, she started eliminating on the pool cover (mesh cover so it ran in to the pool.

I hated having the dog here and could not wait for it to go. Well, she got sick this past November and had to be put down (was 15 years old).

As sad as my mother is to have lost her dog, I could not be happier. She wants to get another dog but I am adamant.... NO! Dogs are a 15 year commitment and I don't think she has another 15 years.
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Perhaps now the cats might become comfort animals for your mother? Just having a warm, furry cat in someone's lap is very relaxing and consoling.
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JennaRose, You recognized the truth of a situation and resolved it in a very humane way. The dog's welfare and your mom's was at stake. I'd be proud of doing that. I know that it sounds sad, but, eventually, your mom won't remember the dog. So, I would take comfort that the dog is in a good home getting the care he needs.
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Just an update: I gave my Mom's dog up (he was adopted) because I couldn't handle walking the dog anymore (I live in the mountains where there are dirt roads) and we had a lot of ice which made it hard to walk the dog. Another reason is that when my back was turned my Mom would take the dog out which was not safe for her. She would get lost and she told me she fell down.

I feel really guilty about giving the dog up but it was draining me as this dog needed to much attention. I admit I became attached to the dog but my well being as well as my Mom's is more important. Also my cats are so happy that they have the run of my place again.
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i have an old customer from last winter trying to get me to come do another significant repair job . i cant get it out of my head that she has a neighbor dog across the ravine that yarps all day long like a sea lion on pcp .
the dog owner contacted me months ago to do a repair job for him . aint gonna happen in either case .
i like dogs either two ways -- mannered and quiet , or DEAD ..
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Thanks. I was going to take photographs of him and post his picture and description of him on an online group in my town where I live. Lots of dog lovers here who would love to have this dog who is very lovable, smart, well trained, etc. I guess I'm afraid of my Mom's reaction to when I do this.
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Work with a rescue group near you to find a home for the dog. Your mom has to be willing to sign the dog over to the new owners. good luck!
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