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He's just lost his wife that was his eyes, heart and soul, A dating site or another that's blind and looking for someone to share their life with, He's 79, alone and has a lot of hopes and dreams yet, someone to share time or possible long term

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There are resources for the blind in almost every state. Also check out the senior centers.
Janice - great story with a happy ending. Thanks for sharing it.
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Go to your state's Commissioner of the Blind.
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My mother (who recently lost her husband of 59 years) is suffering from depression over the death of my father. She constantly talks about not having an appeitite and not eating. However, when she does eat and you acknowledge the fact that's she is eating she stops. She doesn't bath or change her clothes for days. She lays in the same spot for days and gets up only to use the bathroom or go to the kitchen. However she will get up to go play bingo even through she misses a lot of the numbers called. Her physician prescribed her antidepressents and anxiety pills. however they seem to put her in a fog.

I tried taking her a therapist, just started, don't know if it will work. Does anyone have any suggestions. Its very difficult to tell your mom she needs to take a shower and change her clothes when she wants to argue with you.
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JaniceS111---What a wonderful post!! So awesome to hear a story like that, of two people coming together that can truly help each other out and make their lives better.

Many towns/counties have places called "Senior Centers", where seniors can go and have a reasonably priced lunch, socialize and meet other seniors, play cards, talk. They also have scheduled dances, movies and other activities. That sounds like a good place to try to meet someone.

There is also church.
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I'm not sure what state your friend resides in, but in Massachusetts, and maybe in other states as well, there is the Commission for the Blind site. I utilized their resources while helping my aunt who was blind from diabetes. The provide very useful tips and techniques for the vision impaired. They provided a phone that my aunt could activate by voice, they placed markers on the microwave enabling her to cook, and also on the stove. Many useful tips.
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I met a man in similar situation, although his younger wife of 12 years left him after he lost his sight, due to diabetes. Wife previously had done everything for him, so he didn't know how to pay bills or how to make doc appts. Wife evicted him from home they lived in the past 12 years (her grandfather owned home). Man did not have the income to afford assisted living, or even a personal care home. Waiting lists for subsidized housing were closed or had wait times of about 3 years. He thought he would be homeless, but I helped him move into monthly hotel room. It was apparent he would not last long on his own. Couldn't see to take meds or give insulin shots. I introduced him to a female senior who is sighted, but she had some physical disabilities due to stroke. They each had only limited social security income. They now share a 3 BR house. Between the two of them, they almost make a whole person :) She reads his mail, cooks meals, does all laundry, and makes sure his meds and blood sugar reading are good. He opens jars (which her hands can't do) and she feels safer with man in home. They keep each other company, so both no longer lonely. Sharing expenses has allowed them to have a larger home than the month-to-month hotel room which was the only previous option for each. I found someone nearby to drive them to get groceries, pay neighbor to mow yard, and it seems to be working pretty well.
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If this person is looking for interactions with others, I would suggest a senior center or assisted living, as mentioned above. If he is not able to care for himself (cook, dress, etc.) that is a different matter. Was he receiving services for the blind before his wife passed? Does he have other disabilities? Did he and his wife have friends who will still be involved in his life? Does he need transportation services now? Call your local area Agency on Aging; they might be able to point you in the right direction.
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That is a great answer about Assisted Living Facilities... They have activities and also outings... some go on outing once a week. Also there is books on tape at the library and once that is set up they will mail them to him and then when he is finished with them he mails them back.
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This is a forum where those caring for someone can share their stories and ask for advice, we aren't a dating service. I would suggest that the gentleman in question might want to consider moving into an assisted living residence where there is paid staff to help him with his needs, as well as opportunities for new friendships with seniors of both sexes.
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