She is 93 years old, still living on her own in a condo. There is one flight of stairs to the front door and the back door is ground level. She is not cleaning her home, there is moldy food in the fridge, she has stopped driving but will not give up the keys to the car. She trouble writing out the checks to pay her bills, refuses to see a Dr. and complains that her right foot is swelling. We have tried to have some one come in and give us tips on how to keep her in her home and so that she will have a choice in who will help her in the future, but she refuses. This is a woman who has already planned her funeral, but will allow us to plan for her care if something happens. My husband is an only child and this is starting to become very difficult. Where can we turn for help?