I have been looking for the best of a new professional caregiving position, and met today with what I thought was it.
I was very shocked to hear and see the current caregiver speak so very negative about the daughter whom lives 2000 miles away and has a video recorder and tapes the audio of the caregiver, and calls about 7 times a day to correct her caregiving.
First off, this is not a job for one person, and secondly I am not going to work for them. I have decided that I deserve to be nice to myself, and working for a woman whom is mental ill and physical abusive? Really, how can a daughter 2000 miles away even consider this an ok way to be.
What is the advice of other caregivers, families as to what to do with a mother, where this daughter, who was in the process of hiring me stated, she has feared her mother all of her life, and would never bring friends home, for fear of her mother's moods.
This seems crazy that this family is all about keeping them together? Really, he has dementia so bad and cannot hear, is yelled at abused all day long.
I could not believe my eyes.
Also, is it illegal in Washington State to audio as well as video cam. I know video is ok without consent but if you hire and employee, don't you have to allow them to sign a consent for for someone to hear every voice or word that is spoken?
It is a horrible situation, She has Alzehimers on top of it, and he as she said is the perfect word for "unconditional love"? Really, it seems like very codependent attachment to an abuser.
A little late to work on this couple, but what could I suggest to this woman, as she is asking me for advise, as no one will care for her parents together as the mother hits, bites, throws water with a glass and breaks things?