The short answer is yes. Separating them now would be horribly hard on them. If they need drastically different levels of care, try to find a facility that gives many levels, but where your mom can still visit her mother.
The only negative would be that your mother may still feel she has to "care" for her mother. But if she is able to understand that her mother is cared for and all she has to do is visit when she is up to it, then the same place seems to me to be a good solution.
This happens more often than we'd like to think. Red flag, caregivers! Take care of yourselves, too.
Could you advise as to where I might find an "affordable" placement for both my Mother and Grandmother, in Northern California....... Ideally a small home situation woiuld be ideal for them as they have been living together in a hpouse with other housemates for sometime now.
I agree with the 'agingcare expert' on this. There are many senior care agencies you may want to seek out as well-for a more professional reply. If there is demenia involved, I then would seek the guidance of the Alzheimer's Association-who in turn will offer you an abundance amount of options. Good Luck!
The only negative would be that your mother may still feel she has to "care" for her mother. But if she is able to understand that her mother is cared for and all she has to do is visit when she is up to it, then the same place seems to me to be a good solution.
This happens more often than we'd like to think. Red flag, caregivers! Take care of yourselves, too.
Carol