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She is in assisted living and just discovered one son was ripping her off. He is causing her a lot of stress and she swears he is out to kill her because she already had one stroke. He has all the copies of her will and won''t give one to her plus she can't remember the lawyer's name and that son won't tell her the name. He is set to inherit everything if she dies right now and she wants to change that. Basically she just needs an inexpensive lawyer and to know her rights about the stuff he won't hand over. She is alert and in control of all her faculties. He just tricked her for a while but then she wised up. Also, the cost of assisted living is eating up her savings. I remember hearing that being the widow of a serviceman who served during WW2 qualified her for help paying for her care. Is there such a thing? You can contact me at home. Jan

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Sunflo2 advise is spot-on.

I would suggest that you speak first with the social worker @ the ALF rather than the director of the facility. Social workers are a huge source of information and I've found that they can be quite candid in what they tell you as social workers are required to be on staff and so have pretty good job security (unlike the nursing staff which totally are under the DON - Director of Nursing).

Also please keep in mind, that mom may have dementia and what she thinks is happening (…"he is out to kill her"…) may not have any basis in reality.
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Talk to the director of AL where she is. They usually have a lawyer specializing in elder law on retainer and could refer you. Sometimes they will give you free consult and then charge if mom decides to use their services. The Director may have a list of reputable elder law attorneys they can refer you to.

You can also contact your local senior services center in moms area and they can give you a list.

This is your brother I'm assuming....Are you on speaking terms? Are moms accusations accurate? If she isn't in her right mind, has dementia, brother may contest any interference.

Make sure you have clear written documentation of the instances for moms claims as to why she wants to make the change. Will brother now be cut out of the will? Why would he inherent everything? Are you a sibling?

Vet benefits. Yes, they can provide financial assistance. The info is on the veterans affairs website. Assistance is based on need and current financial status but worth looking into for now or in the future.
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if she is competent, all she needs to do is have a new will drafted. Do you have powers of attorney? Is son has them she should also get those revised. If there is not POA in place get them now!
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Contact the Bar Association, they will refer you to attorneys that will take cases for reduced or no fee. There is also free legal help through Legal Aid. There is a website where you can pose questions to attorneys, several will respond at no fee. The site also has peer and client reviews of the attorneys. If you suspect this will end up in court make sure you retain one with significant litigation experience.
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