Dad is stabilized- we want to go home, sister wants us to stay with her.
My parents have been married 64 years.
-Dad has Alzheimer's.
-Mom has dementia, too (mild to moderate).
-I am one of three siblings and came home in summer of 2016, to live with parents as primary caregiver.
In January, Dad was stricken suddenly, with aspiration pneumonia.
Transported to a local hospital, then to a major medical center, near my sister’s home. Pneumonia treated, but PEG tube placed due to dysphasia. Major medical center “provided” MRSA. Discharged and re-admitted 2 more times.
During the hospitalization, Mom and I were “living” with my sister.
FYI- Mom and Dad never wanted to live here. Even when we visited, they were asking to go home, shortly after we arrived! But, for the last year, “You should move up with me. We’ll all live together and take care of Mom and Dad.” Now, we are here. They want to go home. Mom struggles to “remember” home. Not sure Dad is thinking of home when he says “home” - may be childhood home. However, I promised (many, many, many times) that I would keep them home.
So, I’ve filed for guardianship in order to keep that promise, in order to get my sister off my back, in order to file for VA benefits, etc. This process will take 30 days, during which we will finish up doctor appointments, and I’ll continue to be bullied by my sister. “You are a sorry excuse for a human being. You let the devil rule your life. You will suffer the consequences.”
Since Dad’s been out of hospital, home health comes here. Many times, Dad refuses to work with therapists, but sometimes he does. When we get home, we will probably go with hospice for more support. He is NOT near death, but hospice promises to offer more support?
Please, any advice?