Understood, but at least she's safe. I worry about my aunt because we can't get her into one. I think when the day comes, I would feel a sense of relief and of course, sadness as well. Like others have said, give yourself time. You're doing what's best for her.
So sorry, don't be hard on yourself. It seems like this is a safe place to connect with others that have been through similar situations. You are not alone. Continue to express your feelings and take solace in knowing that your mom is being well cared for.
There is really no way to cope but to honor your sad feelings. What sort of person would NOT feel sad about such a thing.
HOWEVER, you didn't cause this and can't fix it. And the choice to keep marinating (Dr Laura's expression for circular habitual thinking about something without any good answer) in it will not help you or her.
Visit. Make adjustment as easy for her as you are able. Support her. And move on with the quality of life she would want you to have.
Life isn't about happy-all-the-time. There have been many unhappy times in your mother's life and in your own. This is a part of living. It's normal.
You are grieving . It will take time for her and you to adjust . No matter where your Mom is she is experiencing losses due to aging and you are witnessing that . Some days will be better than others for both of you . She will be taken care of , that is what she needs . It is sad , it’s ok to be sad about this . If the sadness becomes worse or does not improve to a lower level , talk to a therapist . In the meantime , try to eat well , sleep , exercise . Do any hobbies you like . Even go away for a respite vacation . Don’t visit Mom everyday , she will not adjust . Go once a week for the first few weeks and don’t stay all day . When you visit you can bring her something she would like.
I found that when I thought about my mother dealing with her aging issues, it also brought to mind feelings about my own future health.
Give yourself time to adjust.
HOWEVER, you didn't cause this and can't fix it. And the choice to keep marinating (Dr Laura's expression for circular habitual thinking about something without any good answer) in it will not help you or her.
Visit. Make adjustment as easy for her as you are able. Support her. And move on with the quality of life she would want you to have.
Life isn't about happy-all-the-time. There have been many unhappy times in your mother's life and in your own. This is a part of living. It's normal.
If the sadness becomes worse or does not improve to a lower level , talk to a therapist . In the meantime , try to eat well , sleep , exercise . Do any hobbies you like . Even go away for a respite vacation .
Don’t visit Mom everyday , she will not adjust . Go once a week for the first few weeks and don’t stay all day . When you visit you can bring her something she would like.