As a new user, I did that prior post incorrectly. I erroneously posted it as an answer to the FIL post instead of as a new discussion. Sorry. Will do better. : ) My real question in all my venting is: is my mom just being manipulative or is she really that 'out there'? That is what eats at me. I would do anything for her if she is really that bad, but I hate being used and I feel like that is what she is doing. I think she remembers easily what she chooses to b/c I see it every day. Then if it is something she doesn't want to do, she conveniently doesn't remember. I wish there was money to hire someone to do those things for her and I could just be her daughter and have no power struggles and just love her.