Mom is 86, has been living with me for 6 months and is showing signs of dementia. Not bad just forgetting things etc. I work full time and also have a husband who had 2 strokes so he can't work. Mom thinks she's ok. I suggested assisted living and she said she's not ready and that I said she could live with us. My daughter has been taking care of her during the day but can't anymore with a new baby coming. I feel enormous guilt even suggesting assisted living again. I almost wish mom wasn't so "with it" sometimes as she wouldn't really realize what was happening. Now it's as if I'm abandoning her! She really can't be on her own as she forgets things, can't get to things etc. My husband is handicapped but does fine on his own. My mom's cleanliness is also another issue. She thinks she cleans herself but doesn't. The bathroom is sometimes full of feces and her hands are not clean and she thinks she cleaned it all. I've talked to her about it but so far to no avail as she forgets. Please someone help me with this difficult conversation! She really feels like I am throwing her to the wolves and I just dropped it last time we talked. She doesn't have alot of money so that's also an issue.