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It's been about 2 months since my mom left rehab and according to my daughters, she has been doing well at home. She has even been driving. She hasn't called me since her grandson picked her up from rehab and I can't help but feel guilty about the whole situation. But I also feel somewhat relieved that I haven't been involved in her medical decisions. I know if I hadn't taken her to the hospital, she wouldn't have received the psychiatric or physical care she needed. I am certain the new medication they started her on during her inpatient stay is working wonders because before, she wanted to sell her house and car. But now I feel like I lost my mom. I am hoping as time goes on, either she will reach out to me or I will learn to deal with the fact that she wants nothing to do with me.

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You did your mother a favor and wound up improving her life to a large degree. You have no reason to feel guilty, but proud of yourself instead. That your mother can't see the value in what you've done for her is HER short sightedness and nothing you can fix. Perhaps it's part of her mental illness that the medication hasn't helped with. A blind spot, at least for the present moment. Hopefully she will return to her senses sometime soon and reach out to you. If not, at least you're no longer immersed in her drama performances, right? I think in time this matter will resolve itself......probably when mom needs something from you and calls you like nothing ever happened. That's my prediction.
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If other family members are seeing her and know that she is ‘doing well at home’, perhaps they could put in a good word for you. Tell your mother that you did what you thought was the right thing to do, it’s turned out well for mother but you are so sorry that she is still angry with you. Ask mother if she has any ideas about how to move forward.
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You did what you needed to do at the time.
" I know if I hadn't taken her to the hospital, she wouldn't have received the psychiatric or physical care she needed".

I think it's only natural to wish the outcome feels good to everyone. Maybe in time.. I don't know.

This is part of the *letting go with love* approach. You have let go of any enmeshment. It may have left a hole 😥. Fill that void with other people, pets, hobbies you love. Fill it with self-care & kindness. 🤗
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