And doing what I want to do without caregiving duty. My two adult kids & I had tentatively planned on meeting at a family resta urant that she finds comfortable, but after a short illness she is slower than usual, tires easily and gets more confused. I am feeling burned out (she lives with me) and would just enjoy time withiut the caregiving burden. Would like to try a new restaurant which I know she would not like & ordering from an unfamiliar menu will be arduous. Am I being selfish for wanting to change our plans to not include her? On one hand it is my birthday; on the other I would not be here without her. She & I could have our own special celebration later in the day, but her grandkids would not be able to attend due to work. Help! Major guilt attack!