I have a unique situation where my mom lives with my sibling and they both need a caregiver. Mom has Alzheimer's (moderate stage) and sibling has multiple health issues and works full time. The home is almost to the hoarding level and mom isn't ready to move in with me. They live an hour away. I go when my schedule allows and try to clean and cook, but it's really weekly help they need. I have kids in school and a part time job and could go out there weekly, but it would be tons of driving and emotional stress. Is that bad to look for a caregiver for them or should I be an amazing daughter and drive out there a few times a week to help?
The only pitfall is that it may cause anger and resentment in Mom and your sibling. People with the issues you have described seldom think they HAVE issues. There is always the option to hire and foot the bill for a caregiver. But, they’re expensive and truthfully, you shouldn’t have to pay for this yourself. However, if you don’t have access to their finances, if you decide to go this route, you’d have to pay for the caregiver yourself. And, they might not let the CG inside. The people from APS know how to deal with these situations. They can convince your Mom and sibling that help is necessary and your name will not come up.