Yes, I know it happens. But I don't know where there is a safe place to be able to talk about it. And I know there are others who are facing worse than me, so that just adds to my guilt. But here goes my situation. I'm retired a little over a year. Retired because I could and so I could help with the care of my folks (early 90 and late 80). That was working OK, yeah, we had our moments, but mostly OK. Did I mention I moved house and moved in with them, supposedly to save some money to eventually get my own house. It's a smallish house, but we all had our own spaces where we could retreat when necessary. Late in the year, my sister joined the household with her young adult son, partly so that she could help with the caregiving. But that meant I was the one who gave up the room I was in so they could have the bigger room. And I feel so petty for feeling put out or put upon when I know they needed to be here. But I got the small extra room (with no real privacy). Now, there is a new health crisis, and I am now taking care of most of the shopping, meals, cleaning,etc. But still feeling guilty. Well, everyone is still capable of taking care of their own personal needs. But the old dynamic of the older and younger siblings still pops up (for me anyway), and some times inadvertently my dad will say something that sets me off and I have to remember I am an adult. Sometimes being an adult is hard, though. I guess I really didn't quite envision my retirement like this. I know we will get through this, and I wouldn't give up being able to take care of the folks I care most about, but sometimes it sure feels overwhelming. How does one go about coping when the day to day sometimes gets you down? Is there a caregivers anonymous :-)? Well, it does help just to write it out. I am on my phone,so I can't read this over, so I guess I will submit this as is.